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Your Spouse Defines Love

The Big Idea

You have to love your spouse the way he/she wants to be loved. 

The Teaching

I was sitting with a couple in my therapy office.  The husband was complaining that no matter what he did for her, his wife did not feel loved by him. The wife agreed that this was so.  The husband was very discouraged and said he was close to giving up because, "nothing I do is ever good enough." 

I asked him what he was doing for her.  He gave me a long list of chores he did on a daily basis.  It was really quite impressive. The poor man even cooked most days! I as